Maybe this is a more popular opinion than I expected, but I think meal trains are more of a burden than anything. My wife had a big surgery in May and someone wanted to organize a meal train. By organize, that mostly meant asking me for approval on everything, including the purpose-built website she used, menus, and even who would come which day. Then we had to be ready for someone different to visit every single day, which means keeping the house presentable and even managing medication schedules so everyone is conscious for that delivery. On the other hand, the person who signed up for day five and then emailed me a DoorDash giftcard is an absolute saint.
Either everyone needs knowledge of the family and to have really good boundaries, or there needs to be a single person who organizes it and maintains those boundaries on their behalf. Otherwise, it is a burden for the family to have to step in on organization in a time of need.
Fully agree! It is very annoying that you still had to handle all the logistics and rearrange care to fit community needs instead of your wife's. Food drop-off with no visiting is absolutely the best way to go about that.
Maybe this is a more popular opinion than I expected, but I think meal trains are more of a burden than anything. My wife had a big surgery in May and someone wanted to organize a meal train. By organize, that mostly meant asking me for approval on everything, including the purpose-built website she used, menus, and even who would come which day. Then we had to be ready for someone different to visit every single day, which means keeping the house presentable and even managing medication schedules so everyone is conscious for that delivery. On the other hand, the person who signed up for day five and then emailed me a DoorDash giftcard is an absolute saint.
Either everyone needs knowledge of the family and to have really good boundaries, or there needs to be a single person who organizes it and maintains those boundaries on their behalf. Otherwise, it is a burden for the family to have to step in on organization in a time of need.
Fully agree! It is very annoying that you still had to handle all the logistics and rearrange care to fit community needs instead of your wife's. Food drop-off with no visiting is absolutely the best way to go about that.